Deborah's Journal

jaylake on how pain is not a competition. I found his words profoundly moving.

Except suffering is not a contest. Suffering is not a race to the bottom. It’s not a competition to see who has the worst, most unspeakable affliction.

I run into this when I tell my own story about my mother’s murder. People always want to compare their pain to mine and it simply doesn’t work that way.

Pain is pain. When we hurt, the last thing we need to think is that somehow our pain isn't sufficient or worthy because someone else has a more spectacular story.


[cancer] Comparing pain cards just makes me want to go for my thankfully nonexistent guns | jlake.com