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I'm 70 years old today. It feels so strange to be that big a number. I have no idea what it means to be This Many Years. But it does feel like a milestone, a sea change.

It comes after a period of wrestling with my engagement with the repeated, periodic parole hearings for the man who raped and murdered my mother -- who was 70 at the time, so that's another reason this age is a huge change for me. I'll likely write about this more, but basically I have decided to not participate in any future hearings 30 years is long enough and past long to carry such a burden. It's done terrible things to my life, and I've fought so hard to regain my peace of mind, let alone my happiness. This is what my mother would want for me, and now I'm finally able to leave the nightmare behind. Turn the page, shut the door, throw the whole vile mess into the ocean.

Back to the birthday. I had a lovely early celebration last week, when Rose was home for spring break (she's the daughter in med school in CT), and she and her wife, Marcie, and Sarah (daughter boomeranged at home) and Dave (mine beloved spouse) and I all went out to a very fancy dinner. Having both my girls and my daughter in law and my husband all together was the best present ever.

I've been unhappy with how unproductive and unfocused I've been for the last year. The parole hearing was only partly to blame, but I have the feeling the right moment to tell the stories and do the other things that are meaningful to me is slipping away, or in danger of doing that. So my present to myself is a promise to sit down, with my journal if helpful, and figure out what's distracting me and how to structure my days. To live well, work well, love well, take excellent care of myself, fill my time with joy.

Date: 2017-04-16 01:12 am (UTC)
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I have been very distracted with my writing since November. Some of it was the election, some of it was an intensely snowy and cold winter, and some of it was the nature of the day job. OTOH, I've been writing short stories again, so that works. But the novel also needs to get into gear....

Date: 2017-04-22 03:45 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] asakiyume
Belated, as I guess I haven't looked at either friends list recently, but happy birthday!

To live well, work well, love well, take excellent care of myself, fill my time with joy. --Amen to that.

Do tell the stories, because I think it'll bring you (and others) joy--but I do also feel that moments shared in joy with friends and family are meaningful in a deep way, so I hope you won't feel hounded by productivity for productivity's sake, if that makes sense.

Date: 2017-04-28 09:48 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] klwilliams
Congratulations on reaching another milestone in the aging process. I think it suits you.

I've noticed a number of people distracted from writing, for a variety of reasons, so it might be something in the air. (I first wrote "area", which might be more true after all.) Best wishes for regaining (or recapturing) your peace of mind.


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